What can I say? I missed a day. Maybe I'll post 2 posts for today. I'll probably do that at some point this weekend.
Later today (because it IS Saturday now) I am heading on a road trip with MF Jenn. We are heading to Shipshewanna! It's not a short drive from here, at least an hour, if not more. It really isn't about the shopping down there either. It's the point of getting out and getting away from the day, something I REALLY need right now.
This past month has been SO much. I'm tired and worn out and ready to throw in the towel, and the holidays aren't even here yet! Those mean travel and family and coordinating visits with about 12 billion people and driving and presents and wrapping and shopping and and and...well, you get the idea.
To add to it all, I think I'm going to open an Etsy shop. Keep in mind, I'm really no where near having enough inventory to be able to do that yet. I'm working on making the stuff now. I don't even have a name!
I've started making these cute beaded barrettes (is that how it's spelled? Could it be barettes?). I'll take a pic of the ones I have done when it is daylight out. The current pics I have now just aren't good at all. So far I have three barrettes made and I'm working on a fourth. They are going to be sold as singles, not as pairs. Each one will be unique. To start off with, I'm going to use only materials I have here in the house. I bought a package of 30 "blank" barrettes last week, so that is my goal to start with. I'm thinking that at some point after the holidays I may have enough inventory to start up the shop.
I'd like to also list Jasons Fimo sculptures. If I can get him to make me more of them. We tried selling them on EBay once. I think Etsy will be a more appropriate forum for sale of those.
This post will be short and sweet. I need to be heading to bed shortly so I can be awake by 9 so I can get ready to head out when MF Jenn gets here at 10. I'll be bringing the camera. I don't know what I'll be taking pics of, however I'll share whatever it is I do see! Prayers and blessings everyone, I hope that you all have a wonderful weekend!
Saturday, November 8, 2008
Thursday, November 6, 2008
Thankful Thursday
Today there is a lot to be thankful for.
I'm thankful that America has given a great man to really shine and show us some change for the good. We really need it right now.
I'm thankful for family. No matter if we disagree with them, or don't particularly like them all the time, they make our lives richer and better just for them being a part of our lives.
I'm thankful for Jason. I know, I'm thankful for him every week. I don't think that will ever change, and trust me, he really deserves to be thanked.
I'm thankful we are able to provide for our family.
Prayers and blessings everyone. I know it's short and sweet, but hey, it's better than nothing.
I'm thankful that America has given a great man to really shine and show us some change for the good. We really need it right now.
I'm thankful for family. No matter if we disagree with them, or don't particularly like them all the time, they make our lives richer and better just for them being a part of our lives.
I'm thankful for Jason. I know, I'm thankful for him every week. I don't think that will ever change, and trust me, he really deserves to be thanked.
I'm thankful we are able to provide for our family.
Prayers and blessings everyone. I know it's short and sweet, but hey, it's better than nothing.
Wednesday, November 5, 2008
Everyone is Reading.
It seems that everyone is reading. People you never thought were reading. People you never thought WOULD read.
Here's the thing about writing and talking. You can say and read the exact same things. They will always come off as different.
This is my space, where I come to write it out. Instead of keeping the anger, joy, frustration, pride, happiness or whatever in, I come to let it out. This is very much an open book to my life, to EVERYTHING that I am feeling, to everything that I am thinking and going through. It isn't unusual to find a post about 6 different things all at once. There is a reason one of my keywords is "I digress" and "random crap".
Apologies are better in person. They go over better that way. There are times when someone comes across something that wasn't intended to be shared with them, at least not at that time, in that form. Sometimes writing it out helps rephrase and reform the thoughts and allows the person to find the best way to approach whatever it is.
Now, I'm going to be specific.
Marian, you and I have never really gotten along. I understand that. I accept that. I know that Jason, the man that I love with all my heart and being, is your baby. I understand how you can feel that he is being "taken away" from you because he now lives his very own grown up life somewhere that isn't 5 minutes away. I understand your love for your son because I feel that way for all of my children. The ones who live here, and those that don't.
I DO feel it is a violation of privacy to move things around in my kitchen or bathroom or any other room of the house. I like the disorganized sense of it. Ironically, it brings me peace. That being said, I was not intending on attacking you with my posts. Jason and I had NO idea that you read this blog. If we had even thought of it, and we honestly didn't, what I wrote wouldn't have been phrased that way, or possibly wouldn't have appeared at all. It was a vent, a voicing of my own frustration. I was asking for suggestions, though I hadn't really received any, on ways to best approach you about how I feel.
I didn't know how to say to you "Marian, please stay out of my cupboards. If you want to know something, please ask me. I will answer you honestly and completely. I feel that you going through things is an invasion in to my personal space. You may find things that I am not ready to share with you because it isn't the right time to do it. I was raised to answer direct questions honestly and that if it's behind a door, cupboard or room or car or whatever, it's private. Please stay out of those spaces. Please don't wash the dishes after the meal. I take offense with it. It feels like you are saying that it's not done right with how I (or Jason) do it. I understand you were trying to say "Thank you for the meal" however you are a guest in my home and Jason and I are quite capable of cleaning up on our own. Thank you".
Now, saying it like that comes off as bitchy and crass, doesn't it? How is it different that I put a lot of stuff out here, on the internet, for all to read and I have a problem with someone going through my things at home? I am choosing what I am putting here. I'm not taking photos of the inside of my cupboards, or my dresser drawers or the inside of my van, or any other super personal space like that. You won't see copies of receipts (not so you can actually read them at least) or my last name listed, or that of the kids. When you come to my home, you are in my home. You are there, in person. It is open to you, to walk around, to sit on my couch, to eat the dinner I cook, to go upstairs and see where the kids spend a lot of time. We keep the things we don't want to share behind closed doors. What I write here isn't anything that I wouldn't say or show you in person. It may be in rough form, but it is what I would share willingly.
Marian, Jason loves you, and no matter who he is married to, he will always care for you and Dave. You are his parents and are irreplaceable that way. I don't know how to ease your feelings of losing him. I will most likely feel similar when my own children go to have their own lives. I do feel that way about the ones that aren't here.
This does not mean that you are not welcome here, in my home. If anything, we want to see you more. We can't afford to come down there all the time, raising a family is expensive, as you know, and there are bills to pay. We would like you come up for dinner here occassionaly, though we understand the situation with Dave and his dad and Uncle Don. Unfortunately, sometimes life keeps the ones you want closest to you apart.
I also know that you may not understand why we do certain things the way that we do. Homeschooling, me not working, the stuff with James and Katy and Vyky, the way we parent and discipline, and the whole ball of wax. It is all very different then how anyone else does it. That is because we are different than anyone else. We do try to do what is in the best interest of our kids, and of our family as a whole.
I know that you and I will not always see eye to eye. We are two very different people who have Jason in common. We both love him as much as we possibly can. Jason is the best thing to ever happen in my life. I've gone through so much hardship and crap and hurt and failure. You did right when you raised him, and thank you for that. He is an amazing and wonderful and caring man. He loves me, and my children. He accepts me, and mine, as we are. He has embraced our life and how we live it. I promise I try my damndest to make him happy. Thank you for entrusting him to me.
Prayers and blessings everyone. Remember, you can't choose your family, not really. They are all different than you, and while you may not like them much, they are yours so cherish them for who they are.
Here's the thing about writing and talking. You can say and read the exact same things. They will always come off as different.
This is my space, where I come to write it out. Instead of keeping the anger, joy, frustration, pride, happiness or whatever in, I come to let it out. This is very much an open book to my life, to EVERYTHING that I am feeling, to everything that I am thinking and going through. It isn't unusual to find a post about 6 different things all at once. There is a reason one of my keywords is "I digress" and "random crap".
Apologies are better in person. They go over better that way. There are times when someone comes across something that wasn't intended to be shared with them, at least not at that time, in that form. Sometimes writing it out helps rephrase and reform the thoughts and allows the person to find the best way to approach whatever it is.
Now, I'm going to be specific.
Marian, you and I have never really gotten along. I understand that. I accept that. I know that Jason, the man that I love with all my heart and being, is your baby. I understand how you can feel that he is being "taken away" from you because he now lives his very own grown up life somewhere that isn't 5 minutes away. I understand your love for your son because I feel that way for all of my children. The ones who live here, and those that don't.
I DO feel it is a violation of privacy to move things around in my kitchen or bathroom or any other room of the house. I like the disorganized sense of it. Ironically, it brings me peace. That being said, I was not intending on attacking you with my posts. Jason and I had NO idea that you read this blog. If we had even thought of it, and we honestly didn't, what I wrote wouldn't have been phrased that way, or possibly wouldn't have appeared at all. It was a vent, a voicing of my own frustration. I was asking for suggestions, though I hadn't really received any, on ways to best approach you about how I feel.
I didn't know how to say to you "Marian, please stay out of my cupboards. If you want to know something, please ask me. I will answer you honestly and completely. I feel that you going through things is an invasion in to my personal space. You may find things that I am not ready to share with you because it isn't the right time to do it. I was raised to answer direct questions honestly and that if it's behind a door, cupboard or room or car or whatever, it's private. Please stay out of those spaces. Please don't wash the dishes after the meal. I take offense with it. It feels like you are saying that it's not done right with how I (or Jason) do it. I understand you were trying to say "Thank you for the meal" however you are a guest in my home and Jason and I are quite capable of cleaning up on our own. Thank you".
Now, saying it like that comes off as bitchy and crass, doesn't it? How is it different that I put a lot of stuff out here, on the internet, for all to read and I have a problem with someone going through my things at home? I am choosing what I am putting here. I'm not taking photos of the inside of my cupboards, or my dresser drawers or the inside of my van, or any other super personal space like that. You won't see copies of receipts (not so you can actually read them at least) or my last name listed, or that of the kids. When you come to my home, you are in my home. You are there, in person. It is open to you, to walk around, to sit on my couch, to eat the dinner I cook, to go upstairs and see where the kids spend a lot of time. We keep the things we don't want to share behind closed doors. What I write here isn't anything that I wouldn't say or show you in person. It may be in rough form, but it is what I would share willingly.
Marian, Jason loves you, and no matter who he is married to, he will always care for you and Dave. You are his parents and are irreplaceable that way. I don't know how to ease your feelings of losing him. I will most likely feel similar when my own children go to have their own lives. I do feel that way about the ones that aren't here.
This does not mean that you are not welcome here, in my home. If anything, we want to see you more. We can't afford to come down there all the time, raising a family is expensive, as you know, and there are bills to pay. We would like you come up for dinner here occassionaly, though we understand the situation with Dave and his dad and Uncle Don. Unfortunately, sometimes life keeps the ones you want closest to you apart.
I also know that you may not understand why we do certain things the way that we do. Homeschooling, me not working, the stuff with James and Katy and Vyky, the way we parent and discipline, and the whole ball of wax. It is all very different then how anyone else does it. That is because we are different than anyone else. We do try to do what is in the best interest of our kids, and of our family as a whole.
I know that you and I will not always see eye to eye. We are two very different people who have Jason in common. We both love him as much as we possibly can. Jason is the best thing to ever happen in my life. I've gone through so much hardship and crap and hurt and failure. You did right when you raised him, and thank you for that. He is an amazing and wonderful and caring man. He loves me, and my children. He accepts me, and mine, as we are. He has embraced our life and how we live it. I promise I try my damndest to make him happy. Thank you for entrusting him to me.
Prayers and blessings everyone. Remember, you can't choose your family, not really. They are all different than you, and while you may not like them much, they are yours so cherish them for who they are.
Tuesday, November 4, 2008
Tasty Tuesday and Voting Too!
We voted. We made a family affair of it. We walked over to our polling place. We didn't have to wait very long at all. James and Jayden looked at our ballots. It made a little more sense to James because of what we had been working on, elections, the Constitution, the Bill of Rights, voting, that kind of thing. I showed him where you could write in the name you wanted. He confirmed that mine and Jason's ballots looked exactly the same. We all got stickers and came home.
I made donuts on Sunday or Monday night. I used the left over dough from the first batch that I had made. These pics are in chronological order. Jayden kept wanting to help. She and James got to roll the dough a bit, and they each pressed out some of the circles. The pics should tell the story. I didn't take any pics when I originally made the dough. They were good when they were first done, but seemed to go stale quicker than other donuts I've had. It was my first time and I learned a lot. I even learned some stuff that I'll be trying the next time around. I covered the donuts in powdered sugar when they were done cooling. I think next time I'm going to try to fill them with pudding.
Prayers and blessings everyone. I hope you enjoyed your Tuesday. Go eat a donut for me!
I made donuts on Sunday or Monday night. I used the left over dough from the first batch that I had made. These pics are in chronological order. Jayden kept wanting to help. She and James got to roll the dough a bit, and they each pressed out some of the circles. The pics should tell the story. I didn't take any pics when I originally made the dough. They were good when they were first done, but seemed to go stale quicker than other donuts I've had. It was my first time and I learned a lot. I even learned some stuff that I'll be trying the next time around. I covered the donuts in powdered sugar when they were done cooling. I think next time I'm going to try to fill them with pudding.
Prayers and blessings everyone. I hope you enjoyed your Tuesday. Go eat a donut for me!
Monday, November 3, 2008
Randomness
In order to post every day, I'm going to be doing a lot of random things. OK, I admit that pretty much EVERY post on here is pretty damn random, however the INTENT will be just random. How about them apples?
Jason is reading to the kids. Lord of the Rings. It's what he was reading. Jayden wanted him to read to her. And there you go.
Izzy keeps taking things off of my counter in my kitchen. And coloring on himself with markers. He also got stark naked. He didn't need a clean diaper. Jason went to put his jammies back on him and Izzy fought him off, which leads us to believe that Izzy just wanted to be naked.
James went to his first appointment with Doc. O, the psychiatrist. One of James' meds is out the window, to be taken no more. Another is having the dose changed around a bit. We'll see how it goes with it like that. Larry is going to be working on getting James in to getting a full Developmental Evaluation. It will be an all day affair. Oh fun.
We had shredded chicken for dinner. I made a smaller bowl with Buffalo Sauce. I made a bigger bowl with BBQ Sauce. I never knew there were so many uses for shredded chicken! I'll be making that again. It went over REALLY well!
Tonight, we are going to do donuts again. Actually, after this post is done, I'm going to go find space on the dining room table to roll out the dough. Pics will be taken and posted tomorrow.
Prayers and blessings everyone. Enjoy the rambles!
Jason is reading to the kids. Lord of the Rings. It's what he was reading. Jayden wanted him to read to her. And there you go.
Izzy keeps taking things off of my counter in my kitchen. And coloring on himself with markers. He also got stark naked. He didn't need a clean diaper. Jason went to put his jammies back on him and Izzy fought him off, which leads us to believe that Izzy just wanted to be naked.
James went to his first appointment with Doc. O, the psychiatrist. One of James' meds is out the window, to be taken no more. Another is having the dose changed around a bit. We'll see how it goes with it like that. Larry is going to be working on getting James in to getting a full Developmental Evaluation. It will be an all day affair. Oh fun.
We had shredded chicken for dinner. I made a smaller bowl with Buffalo Sauce. I made a bigger bowl with BBQ Sauce. I never knew there were so many uses for shredded chicken! I'll be making that again. It went over REALLY well!
Tonight, we are going to do donuts again. Actually, after this post is done, I'm going to go find space on the dining room table to roll out the dough. Pics will be taken and posted tomorrow.
Prayers and blessings everyone. Enjoy the rambles!
Sunday, November 2, 2008
Almost Silent Sunday
Well, as you all know, Halloween was this past week. We ventured out with all of the goblins, ghouls, witches, pirates, kings, and princesses (why are the girls always princesses and NOT queens? Just curious) to go begging house to house for that coveted treat that is in the rarest form around this house, CANDY!
James is a Pirate. His own choice. His boots are left over from when Jason and I did a season (or was it 1/2 a season?) on the Renn Faire Circuit with Swords of Valour. I have some pics with them, maybe I'll put those up later this month when I'm searching for post topics. Anyway, I digress as usual. I went everywhere looking for a BROWN pirate hat and I finally found one at KMart. I was going to make his costume, however the current Bane of My Existence, also known as our dining room, never was cleaned (yeah, that's ALL me) so MF Jenn bought it for him. Thanks Aunt Jenn!
Jayden is a Fairy. The pink and blue is a costume I made a long time ago in a galaxy far far away. It's actually about 6 years old. It has been passed from girl to girl as dress up clothes. Jayden wanted to be a fairy, so she wore that. The skirt on it is rather short, so I bought her a 2nd wrap around skirt to go over it. The wings come from her "personal collection". She owns three pair after all. She's a collector of wings I guess you could say!
Izzy is wearing a Jester's costume. It is something that I originally made for James when he was 4. He wore it that year for Halloween. It has a matching hat (that we can't find right now), and it DID have bells, however they all came off in the wash OR Izzy yanked them off. I didn't bother to replace them because Izzy would have yanked them off all over again.
I must apologize in advance for the rolly polly belly and the multiple pictures of my butt in baggy jeans. I was walking, Jason was photo taking. I do like the sweater however. I got two of them, one in that green, and one in a soft rose pink. They were $12 a piece at Wal-Mart.
On to the photos!
Prayers and blessings everyone, I hope that your coming week is wonderful!
James is a Pirate. His own choice. His boots are left over from when Jason and I did a season (or was it 1/2 a season?) on the Renn Faire Circuit with Swords of Valour. I have some pics with them, maybe I'll put those up later this month when I'm searching for post topics. Anyway, I digress as usual. I went everywhere looking for a BROWN pirate hat and I finally found one at KMart. I was going to make his costume, however the current Bane of My Existence, also known as our dining room, never was cleaned (yeah, that's ALL me) so MF Jenn bought it for him. Thanks Aunt Jenn!
Jayden is a Fairy. The pink and blue is a costume I made a long time ago in a galaxy far far away. It's actually about 6 years old. It has been passed from girl to girl as dress up clothes. Jayden wanted to be a fairy, so she wore that. The skirt on it is rather short, so I bought her a 2nd wrap around skirt to go over it. The wings come from her "personal collection". She owns three pair after all. She's a collector of wings I guess you could say!
Izzy is wearing a Jester's costume. It is something that I originally made for James when he was 4. He wore it that year for Halloween. It has a matching hat (that we can't find right now), and it DID have bells, however they all came off in the wash OR Izzy yanked them off. I didn't bother to replace them because Izzy would have yanked them off all over again.
I must apologize in advance for the rolly polly belly and the multiple pictures of my butt in baggy jeans. I was walking, Jason was photo taking. I do like the sweater however. I got two of them, one in that green, and one in a soft rose pink. They were $12 a piece at Wal-Mart.
On to the photos!
Prayers and blessings everyone, I hope that your coming week is wonderful!
Saturday, November 1, 2008
A New Post, Everyday
Apparently, in my ever loving insanity, I am now going to add posting every day to it. I dunno why, the idea struck me as cool. I even joined a community site dedicated to it, of all things. Check it out here. If you want to add me as a friend, if you decide to join up too, I'm listed as, yep, you guessed it Serial Mommy. Go figure, right? Oh, I got the idea from Lori over at yes, i MADE that. What the hey, join in the insanity!
I read Lori's blog regularly. I LOVE the projects that she does and she is VERY crafty. I read a lot of CRAFTY blogs. I also often wonder if I should be posting more pics of my craftiness. Here's the thing, I have lots of stuff in progress, but I don't finish much of it. I'm a slacker like that. I think this month, as I'm posting every day anyway, I'll start adding pics of crafts in their ongoing stages. Maybe it will encourage me to work on them more.
Today is Saturday. This weekend we are going to make donuts again. This time, I will make sure to document the process. I'll have Jason home to be able to document the frying process. It happens much too quickly for me to do it myself. I also want to make Cake Balls. Though I'm rather certain it WON'T be in the Halloween style. Probably just some fancy drippings and what not, just to see how they go over. Thanks PW for the recipe. I know the guys at Jason's work love when I bake because they get a TON of stuff sent in with Jason. We can't eat it all, and I really don't want the kids to be eating it all, though I KNOW they'd LOVE to!
Halloween went well yesterday. We went Trick or Treating in My Friend Jenn's neighborhood. The kids made out like little begger bandits. James was a pirate, and thank you Jenn for buying his costume for him. I never got to making his. The whole Cleaning the Dining Room Project has been consistently put off. Jayden was a fairy. She got a new skirt bought for her, to make her current dress a bit longer. Izzy was a Jester, left over from when James was one. I couldn't find the hat, and I doubt Izzy would have worn it anyway. Mom and Dad were, well, Mom and Dad. It DEFINATELY counted for our exercise. It also gave me a great teaching point because James wanted to know who invented Halloween. So I'm going to hop on over to Doc's site and use the Halloween Homeschool Chapter she has. Doc is great for listing free resources for Homeschoolers and I REALLY need to be using them more.
Novemer, while it is the month for most to prepare for the holidays, it is the Month of Organization for me. OOOOOOH, sounds scary. Hell yes it is! I'll be starting therapy this month. Exercising regularly. No excuses accepted. Cleaning up the house. Organizing all the stuff in our house. This is how I prepare for the Holidays. For Thanksgiving, everyone converges on my house, so it must be worthy of my MIL'S inspection.
Speaking of MIL'S. Every time mine visits, she goes through my bathroom cabinet, rearranges things in it, moves my dishes and towels around in the kitchen. All that kind of stuff. When we lived in our old apartment, she went through and closed all the blinds. I went behind her and opened them back up. My brother in law, in his wisdom, looked at me and said "It makes her happy, let her do it." I snapped back "But it doesn't make ME happy, and it's MY house." To which he promptly shut up.
Jason said I should let it go. I have a problem with that. It's MY house. I put things a certain way because that's how I want them. I don't want someone, anyone, coming behind me, and moving them around. Jason decided he was going to move the microwave around on the counter. I didn't like it that way, so I moved it back. I'm willing to give his idea a try because he lives here too. However, my MIL does not.
She is a nice lady. She has this need to be nosey. To go through things to know what is going on. I abhor that. I was raised that when in someone else's home, you respect their privacy. You leave their things where they lay. If I have a messy cabinet, so what, it's MY cabinet. I want to leave her a note. Jason said I can't. I asked him if I could move stuff around at HER house. He said "Whatever Jamie. I think you should leave it be, but whatever." I can't bring myself to do it.
It's such a VIOLATION of privacy. Am I wrong here? Should I just tolerate her snoopy behavior? As it is, when she is here, we close off our bedroom and office. We know she would LOVE to go through those spaces, so we close the doors. It would be too obvious of her to open them, so she doesn't. What would be the best way to go about handling this? It really does bother me, irritate me, and violates my space, and personal beliefs. Is there anything that can really BE done about it?
Prayers and blessings everyone. Tomorrow is Almost Silent Sunday and I'll have Trick or Treating pics for you all. I hope you have a wonderful weekend.
I read Lori's blog regularly. I LOVE the projects that she does and she is VERY crafty. I read a lot of CRAFTY blogs. I also often wonder if I should be posting more pics of my craftiness. Here's the thing, I have lots of stuff in progress, but I don't finish much of it. I'm a slacker like that. I think this month, as I'm posting every day anyway, I'll start adding pics of crafts in their ongoing stages. Maybe it will encourage me to work on them more.
Today is Saturday. This weekend we are going to make donuts again. This time, I will make sure to document the process. I'll have Jason home to be able to document the frying process. It happens much too quickly for me to do it myself. I also want to make Cake Balls. Though I'm rather certain it WON'T be in the Halloween style. Probably just some fancy drippings and what not, just to see how they go over. Thanks PW for the recipe. I know the guys at Jason's work love when I bake because they get a TON of stuff sent in with Jason. We can't eat it all, and I really don't want the kids to be eating it all, though I KNOW they'd LOVE to!
Halloween went well yesterday. We went Trick or Treating in My Friend Jenn's neighborhood. The kids made out like little begger bandits. James was a pirate, and thank you Jenn for buying his costume for him. I never got to making his. The whole Cleaning the Dining Room Project has been consistently put off. Jayden was a fairy. She got a new skirt bought for her, to make her current dress a bit longer. Izzy was a Jester, left over from when James was one. I couldn't find the hat, and I doubt Izzy would have worn it anyway. Mom and Dad were, well, Mom and Dad. It DEFINATELY counted for our exercise. It also gave me a great teaching point because James wanted to know who invented Halloween. So I'm going to hop on over to Doc's site and use the Halloween Homeschool Chapter she has. Doc is great for listing free resources for Homeschoolers and I REALLY need to be using them more.
Novemer, while it is the month for most to prepare for the holidays, it is the Month of Organization for me. OOOOOOH, sounds scary. Hell yes it is! I'll be starting therapy this month. Exercising regularly. No excuses accepted. Cleaning up the house. Organizing all the stuff in our house. This is how I prepare for the Holidays. For Thanksgiving, everyone converges on my house, so it must be worthy of my MIL'S inspection.
Speaking of MIL'S. Every time mine visits, she goes through my bathroom cabinet, rearranges things in it, moves my dishes and towels around in the kitchen. All that kind of stuff. When we lived in our old apartment, she went through and closed all the blinds. I went behind her and opened them back up. My brother in law, in his wisdom, looked at me and said "It makes her happy, let her do it." I snapped back "But it doesn't make ME happy, and it's MY house." To which he promptly shut up.
Jason said I should let it go. I have a problem with that. It's MY house. I put things a certain way because that's how I want them. I don't want someone, anyone, coming behind me, and moving them around. Jason decided he was going to move the microwave around on the counter. I didn't like it that way, so I moved it back. I'm willing to give his idea a try because he lives here too. However, my MIL does not.
She is a nice lady. She has this need to be nosey. To go through things to know what is going on. I abhor that. I was raised that when in someone else's home, you respect their privacy. You leave their things where they lay. If I have a messy cabinet, so what, it's MY cabinet. I want to leave her a note. Jason said I can't. I asked him if I could move stuff around at HER house. He said "Whatever Jamie. I think you should leave it be, but whatever." I can't bring myself to do it.
It's such a VIOLATION of privacy. Am I wrong here? Should I just tolerate her snoopy behavior? As it is, when she is here, we close off our bedroom and office. We know she would LOVE to go through those spaces, so we close the doors. It would be too obvious of her to open them, so she doesn't. What would be the best way to go about handling this? It really does bother me, irritate me, and violates my space, and personal beliefs. Is there anything that can really BE done about it?
Prayers and blessings everyone. Tomorrow is Almost Silent Sunday and I'll have Trick or Treating pics for you all. I hope you have a wonderful weekend.
Subscribe to:
Posts (Atom)